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Forgiveness


          Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Colossians 3:13)

          According to the Mayo Clinic, the benefits of forgiveness include:
·                     Healthier relationships.
·                     Improved mental health.
·                     Less anxiety, stress, and hostility.
·                     Lower blood pressure.
·                     Fewer symptoms of depression.
·                     A stronger immune system.
·                     Improved heart health.
·                     Improved self-esteem.[1]
          On the other hand, they describe the benefits of holding a grudge as:
·                     Bringing anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience
·                        Becoming so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present
·                        Becoming depressed or anxious
·                        Feeling that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you're at odds with your spiritual beliefs
·                        Losing valuable and enriching connectedness with others[2]
I would add that not forgiving chains one to the person or thing that is not forgiven. The one whom we cannot forgive becomes, in effect, our god. That one and the unforgivable thing become the focus of our lives.
Once again, Paul seems to be giving advice that is in line with the findings of science. But of course, our case is always the exception. We fear that if we give up our hate, there will be no justice. We feel that if we forgive, we’re saying it didn’t matter, or didn’t hurt, or even that it was OK. But forgiveness does none of those things. Forgiveness unshackles you from the one who hurt you.

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