Here there is no Gentile or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all. Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. (Colossians 3:11-12)
The second half of this passage
makes it sound as though we’re supposed to wear our hearts on our sleeves.
That’s why I backed up a verse to give it some context. Paul wrote that the
various tribes and cliques did not belong in the Church. It didn’t matter what
you looked like, what your social status was, or how you had identified before
coming to Christ. Once you were in Christ, you were part of the family, and the
behavioral code for family members was different from the behavioral code for
everyone else. Everyone in Christ was “us.” They were to be treated as family,
or as we wanted to be treated.
In our culture, we are called to
be compassionate or empathetic, to feel with others. The problem is, people
think that if you weep with them or cheer for them, that you must agree with
their assessment of the situation. If you say something that differs from that
assessment, you’re a fake or a liar. Sometimes, the call for us to be
compassionate is made based on someone’s identity. We’re to be compassionate to
members of this group or that, but if our compassion is directed toward a
different kind of person, we are denounced. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary online defines
compassion as sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress, together with a
desire to alleviate it. That means that it might be compassionate to tell
someone to get off their backside and do something.
I like to define kindness as
lending someone your strength. It might not involve making them feel better.
Humility, likewise, doesn’t necessitate becoming a slave to another person. It
does mean that who you think you are isn’t relevant. As I see it, gentleness is
declining to use one’s full capacity to act against someone, or to decline to
act against them. Patience is being willing to wait for them to do as you
desire. None of these things puts the other person in charge or requires us to release them from responsibilities or reasonable behavior.
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