Love never fails…And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love. (I Corinthians 8a & 13)
Did you know that the
wonderful section of I Corinthians we’re examining is a rabbit trail of a sort?
The main topic Paul was addressing was spiritual gifts and their proper use. In
the middle, he interrupts himself to say (in effect) “but let me tell you about
something that’s lots better than these gifts: love.” In the quote above, the
ellipses (…) are a summing up of what he’d said about gifts, with verse 13 as a
summation of his whole argument about stuff that won’t last forever, and stuff
that will.
But now, let’s get to our
tough stuff again. Love never fails? Really? So why do 50% of all marriages end
in divorce? And why didn’t I, as daughter and caregiver, enjoy taking care of
my father, relishing the idyllic occupation? Why do people start out full of
passion for their jobs, and end up grinding their teeth or crying on the way to
work because they can’t stand it anymore? What idiot could look at reality and
say that love never fails? Who could listen to the discord in our
society, and especially to the portion that talks most about love, inclusion,
and tolerance and say that love never fails?
Paul was right. Love
never fails, but people do. We’re limited. We only have so much time, energy, and
patience. Without some means of refilling our “love tank,” we’ll reach a point
where we just can’t love. And that often happens before the need for love runs
out. And sometimes, love doesn’t fail because it was never involved. What we
called, “Love” might have been lust, need, possession, competition,
wish-fulfillment, ego... or it might have been nothing more than a feeling,
which isn’t love at all. That’s the problem with the whole “Love is love” game.
And
so we come to the last part. And now these three remain: faith, hope and
love. But the greatest of these is love. Now why would Paul say that
the greatest is love? One possibility is that love is the ground from which
faith and hope grow. Another is that love is the flower that grows from one’s
faith in someone and one’s hope for that someone. And another that comes to
mind is that there is a sense in which faith and hope aren’t things we can do
by the force of our will, but we can love even when we don’t feel loving.
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